Habit # 1 The Easy Way To Get Dressed To Shoes!

Exercise Days

*Part of a 10 week series. To get involved join the Facebook group Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System To Remove Clutter & CHAOS

Some may wonder, what are FLYing clothes?  It is simple.  It is something you feel comfortable in wearing while you are FLYing. The purpose is to get you out of your pajamas that tells your mind to slumber rather than FLY.  So what I am going to do is give you some pictures of FLYing clothes that I have worn.

Your FLYing Clothes Are Determined By What You Are Doing For That Particular Day.
For example:   I am putting exercise into my FLYing at least 3 times a week.  They are not old worn out sweats.  I have 3 workout outfits that I wear that includes jackets.  Nothing fancy. Each piece from Walmart $10.00 a piece.  I layer with a sports bra and top with thin straps.  If I need to run to the store that is only 11 miles away, I can easily do it wearing the outfit.  I can also clean/FLY in it.  So now I know what 3 out of 7 outfits I am wearing for the week.
Errand Day
One day is Errand Day.  I usually wear nice jeans and a nice top.  One day is Renew Your Spirit Day and I wear a nice pair of slacks and top to church.  This leaves me with 2 days left.  What do I wear? I wear clothes that I feel comfortable in.  For me it is side elastic jeans and a top or a sports bra and top with skinny straps with a jacket over it.  That completes 7 days for me.  If there is something I am working on that I am afraid I might stain a top, I pull out my work shirt to cover any spills.  I also have an apron I will put on if I think I will get dirty.
Renew Your Spirit Day
In A Nutshell, FLYing Clothes Are The Ones In Between Your Good Clothes And Your Grunge Clothes.  It Is The Type Of Clothing That You Won’t Feel Bad Wearing When An Old Friend Shows Up At Your Door Or Running To The Store Quick To Pick Something Up And You Run Into An Old Boyfriend.  You Have To Keep One Set Of Grunge Clothes For Certain Jobs.  I Call Them My Painting Clothes.  They Aren’t Super Grungy.  They Have Paint On Them Because I Am Painting.
Apron To Protect Your Clothes
I hope this explains what FLYing Clothes are.  I had a problem at first and if you notice in any of my Individual Photos when I was doing the challenge “Getting Dressed To Shoes, Hair and Makeup”  It was tops and bottoms with a shirt.  It is as simple as this.  So please take a chance on the FLYing side and get out of your pajamas and “Get Dressed To Shoes!”
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Decluttering Your Home Out Of The Depths Of CHAOS

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was a ‘Magic Pill’ that would solve the problem of ‘Clutter’ and ‘CHAOS’? I believe all of us would take it as if it were a vitamin and yet… How many of us take a daily vitamin?

Example Of Taking A Daily Vitamin

Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? And yet many have great intentions only to be stopped cold because one cannot make a decision as to which company to trust. Therefore, nothing happens.

Example Of Finding The Right System To Help You Remove Clutter And CHAOS From Your Home

Never has there been a time where so many are willing to offer what they think will work for you by means of getting your home in order. And that is where the problem lays. There are too many of them just like too many vitamin companies. It paralyzes us and nothing gets done.

The sad part of this is that in our quest, it ends up consuming too much of our time. Goals in life are missed because of this.

I created Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! To Remove Clutter And CHAOS. So what is so different from mine to others?


Habits turn into routines, routines turn into rewards = 3 R’s

Want To Know More?

The past 3 years my facebook group called Marilyn’s Way has had the privacy settings ‘Secret’. The problem with this is that no one has been able to find me.

After careful consideration I have decided to change the setting back to ‘Closed’. What this means to you is my group will be in the search groups of facebook so you can click the ‘Join’ button. I will also provide the link at the bottom of this post. But first…

Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System To Remove Clutter And CHAOS  Description

A simple, effective, and doable system to help you remove clutter and CHAOS from your home with the core of the system to be 9 specific habits practiced each day before anything else.

The system is set up into levels to help you build as you go and adjust as your life changes within the year.

We must first start with feet planted firmly on the ground. From there we learn to Dance Till You FLY! meaning First Love Yourself. Others come next.

This is how you will be able to take care of yourself, your family and your home.

Additional levels include Weekly Habits for specific days, Zone Cleaning Marilyn’s Way, Monthly Spotlight on one of the 9 Habits to practice and Monthly Events to help members Maintain the system.

What this is NOT:
A system that is very detailed.
What this IS:
The system is a basic platform of simple tools that will help you with finding your own way to make a system work for you.

The group is to complement my blog www.marilynswayhomegarden.com
To Remove Clutter And CHAOS (Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome)

How To Join

Click on the following link Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System To Remove Clutter And CHAOS and click ‘Ask To Join’. We will be standing by to add you. There is a Pinned Post that has all the forms you will need to try out this very simple, effective, and doable system to remove clutter and CHAOS from your home!


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Keep It Simple!

When All Else Fails, Keep It Simple!

How many times are we going to venture out looking for the ‘Perfect System’ to take care of ourselves, our family and our home?

Recently I ventured out doing this to make sure I was covering everything I needed to that would help my members of Marilyn’s Way. What did I find instead? CONFUSION.

Yes, there are some wonderful systems out there. Only in my dreams would I be able to do everything they ask. WHY?  Because in Dreams is where the perfect world exists.

The REAL World

Face it, we are in an age where information is available at the touch of a mouse. Never have we been able to find information so easily as we do right now. That said, are we using the filter Common Sense to keep us centered in our day? Apparently not. Instead we continue to look for the perfect _____________. Well, there isn’t one. So what is the next best thing? Keep It Simple.

So many of us want to be able to learn everything all at once.  The problem with this is failure seems to be the only thing that wins. Instead why not start at the bottom and work your way up? That is what Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs model suggests.


That is how I set up Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2015. Make sure you allow enough time in your day to accomplish the 9 habits. From there, you add the next level and so forth.


Will there be days where you are not able to accomplish all the levels in the triangle? Of course there will. Do the best you can.

If nothing more, I have learned I must be consistent and prioritize my day. Doing this allows me to be the most effective I can be.

Fibromyalgia Flare

Recently I have been in the worst ‘Fibromyalgia Flare’ in over two years. I have certainly been challenged when it comes to taking care of myself, my family (furry 4 legged ones) and my home.

How did I keep my home from going back into CHAOS (can’t have anyone over syndrome)?  What did I focus on?

The first level of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2015. That is the 9 habits that will get you from one day to the next and keep you out of CHAOS.


Sure there were days that I didn’t do a Load Of Laundry. That said, I simply would not let it go beyond 3 loads to wash. How have I been able to do the rest? By taking breaks and resting in between.

I kept it simple. I didn’t worry so much about the other levels to Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2015. They would be there when I felt better.


If you like what you just read, Please Share! If you would like to become a member of my secret Facebook group Marilyn’s Way where we talk about getting rid of clutter and CHAOS from our home send me a friend request at www.facebook.com/marilynkayfoster and I will add you to the group!


Donation/Giveaway Box Oh My!

Every home has trash cans in multiple places in the home. We do it to make our lives easier. In fact if we recycle, chances are there is a recycling center set up in the home.

So why don’t we have a Donation/Giveaway Box located somewhere in our home? One of the rules to keep our homes free of clutter is if we bring in something new, naturally something old must go out. And yet we don’t do it. Could it be as simple as having a Donation/Giveaway Box located in let’s say our laundry room?

In my Marilyn’s Way Secret Group January is devoted to the 31 Day Cha Cha Cha Event! It involves throwing away, giving away and putting away  items in our home. When we do sessions of decluttering it is best to have three boxes set up for the task + a timer.

Then there is the time when as you go about your day, you may run into something that you wonder why you bought it and the thought “I need to get rid of this.” thought comes to play. Problem is we won’t act on it because we haven’t created a place to put those items like we do with a trash can. When trash cans are full, naturally they go outside for garbage pick up.

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What is the challenge? It is to stop what you are doing and find a box or a tote and put a sign on it that says Donations/Give Away and place it in your Laundry Room. Next time you find something that you can give away, put it in the box and when the box gets full put it in your car and take it with you to drop off during your next Doo Wop Errand Day! It really is that simple.


If you like what you just read, Please Share! If you would like to become a member of my secret Facebook group Marilyn’s Way where we talk about getting rid of clutter and CHAOS from our home send me a friend request at www.facebook.com/marilynkayfoster and I will add you to the group!

31 Days Of Cha Cha Cha Event!

Christmas will soon be over. More items will come in than go out. What does that spell? CLUTTER! CLUTTER! CLUTTER! 

What to do? Have a 31 Days Of Cha Cha Cha Event! It stands for ‘Throw Away’ ‘Give Away’ and ‘Put Away’. January is a great month for this event. Many will be taking down Christmas trees and decorations and will already be in the Cha Cha Cha mood!

Every day in January find something to Cha Cha Cha each day! It is a fun way of saying each day to Throw Away, Give Away, and Put Away 1 item and see what a difference it will make. If you are in the beginning stages of decluttering focus on 3 items each day.

It is your event to do as you choose. I know I can find one item of each for each day in January. Can you? Make the month of January a fun one to beat the winter blues! ~Marilyn.


Special Note: I will be doing the Cha Cha Cha with you and blogging about things I learn along the way. Come join the fun in my ‘Secret Facebook Group’ ‘Marilyn’s Way!’ To do this simply send a friend request to me at http://www.facebook.com/marilynkayfoster and I will add you to the group where we discuss ways to remove CLUTTER and CHAOS from our homes and build great friendships along the way.

One thing that we all know is ‘Housework Never Ends’. We get up the next day and do it all over again. Learn how to make it easier on yourself by practicing 9 habits each day from Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System.

Finish It Up Fridays!

Recently I have found a name and a description for the 5 working days of the week. I like the addition to Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System. Of course it is always optional and can be used for variety.

Why I decided to have some fun names for each day of the working week is to provide structure. Remember Sundays many families have sat down to a chicken dinner. When one thought of Sunday they immediately associated it with church and chicken dinner. Today I am writing about Friday.

‘Finish It Up Fridays’ is simply that! Whatever projects you have been working on during the week, today is the day to finish them up so Saturday can be fun time and Sunday a day of rejuvenating yourself. Examples of ‘Finish It Up Fridays’ are:

  • Undone Paperwork With A Deadline
  • Balancing Your Checkbook
  • Any Household Project You Started During The Week
  • List Is Endless

If we learn to plan our lives one week at a time, the days and months go so much better. Why? Because breaking things up by days, weeks, months, quarters, and years makes ones life a bit more manageable and isn’t that what we all are searching for?


If you like what you just read, Please Share! If you would like to become a member of my secret Facebook group Marilyn’s Way where we talk about getting rid of clutter and CHAOS from our home send me a friend request at www.facebook.com/marilynkayfoster and I will add you to the group!

Get Up Close And Personal With Marilyn’s Way 9 Habits!

When I named my blog and facebook page Marilyn’s Way To Organization For Home And Garden and calling it Marilyn’s Way for short, it has always meant for you to find ‘Your Way’.  I simply give you a guide of 9 habits that everyone should do each day to get from day to day smoothly.  How you do it is totally up to you!

You see the 9 habits are the foundation in which you can build upon and personalize for yourself.  When I was searching for a way to get rid of my CHAOS and clutter I kept failing because I was trying to do it their way.

The one thing I did learn was practicing a specific habit until it becomes natural.  I did just that when I took the personal challenge of Flylady’s March Habit Getting Dressed To Shoe, Hair, Makeup and posting a daily photo and mini blog for 436 consecutive days.  I was a pajama junkie of 5 years and needed to change if I was to have any chance of getting rid of CHAOS and clutter.

I have a few things stacked up against me to complete this.  I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or Clinical Depression, FibromyalgiaAdult Attention Deficit DisorderSevere Sleep Apnea, Cycolthymic or Mild Bipolar Disorder, and Hypothyroidism.

After looking at my list you may wonder, why even get out of bed?  I tried that.  I felt worse.  Then I went through a period of staying up for 2 days just so I could do everything that most organizational systems ask of you because it takes longer with some tasks for me than most. How did that work you may wonder?  It didn’t.

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That is when Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System was born featuring 9 habits to do each day that will assist in getting you out of CHAOS and clutter so you may take care of yourself, your family and your home.  It doesn’t matter how you do any of the habits.  You do them however they will work for you.

Why are the 9 Habits Successful?

Because you come to realize that they are the foundation and must be done each day to keep the status quo.  Eventually you find your own rhythm to Dance Till You FLY!  From there, you can personalize it even more by practicing a set of ‘Weekly Habits’ for a specific day of your choice.  I chose to name them in dance style terms to make it fun. The third part are the ‘Zones’ that are actually Monthly Habits for a specific zone or room for one week of the month.

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Weekly homemambo14Weekly Home Mambo to do all at once or break it up during the week.

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What About All The Rest?

If you become consistent with the 9 Habits, the Weekly Habits and the zones the rest will take care of itself.  How may you ask?  Because they become so automatic that they free up your time to do seasonal projects or extra decluttering when you can.  Just like our body’s foundation is the skeletal part of our body so are the 3 parts to Marilyn’s Dance Till You FLY! System.

Get up close and personal to Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System keeping it simple to work for you and your way.  I don’t know about you, but I have a lot of living to do and I don’t want to spend my every waking moment cleaning.


If you like what you read and feel it may help others, please SHARE.  I did all the hard parts of this by trying different ways until I came up with these to focus on.  Upon deciding them I took every type of lifestyle into consideration.  From there I invite you to get up close and personal and tweak the system to work for you!

If you would like to join the secret facebook group Marilyn’s Way where we talk about ways of getting rid of CHAOS and clutter to practice the system send me a friend request by clicking on my name Marilyn Foster and I will add you!

102 Years Old! Oh My!

What if you live to be 102 years old.  Are you taking care of your body and mind to be present if the time came?  These are thoughts I have had to ask myself after visiting my great aunt that is 102 years old. I thought it would be fun to see the changes of our society at certain ages of our lives and date them with my great aunt’s.  Here are the following:

18 Years Old:  1930 and the beginning of the Dust Bowl.

25 Years Old:  1937 Electricity comes to the farm.

30 Years Old:  1942 Iowa’s Sullivan Brothers Killed in WW II. In 1998 Saving Private Ryan movie was made with Tom Hanks and directed by Steven Spielberg.

40 Years Old:  1952 Polio Reaches Its Peak in Iowa.

50 Years Old:  1962 Cuban Missile Crisis happens in October.  I am 54 years old and it puts it into perspective.

61 Years Old:  1973 Arab Oil Embargo affects consumers.

70 Years Old:  1982 Farm Crisis began forcing many family farmers into foreclosure.

82 Years Old:  1994 Satellite Technology Changes Farming.

89 Years Old:  2001 America Under Attack on 9/11.

100 Years Old:  2012  March 7th Hilda Doyen turns 100 years old!  Friends and family had a birthday party that weekend.

102 Years Old:  2014 The day after Hilda’s 102  birthday which was March 7th, Malaysia Airlines Flight 370 Disappears. On Friday, April 25th, my mom and I got to see Hilda for the first time in two years.  It was a wonderful reunion as my mom and Hilda are so close.  During the war while Mom’s parents went off to California during the war to work in the ship yards, Hilda and her husband Andy took care of my mom.

Saturday was a wonderful day for Hilda.  The day before her 102nd birthday Hilda may possibly had a small stroke.  The nursing staff noticed a big difference in Hilda’s personality.  Hilda was so happy to see us that she slept good the night before and was able to visit in the present tense with a few times drifting into the past.  We didn’t mind.  We loved to hear the stories.

The following are photos of my great aunt Hilda that had been known to bake some sticky rolls and put them in the mail to me.  Now that makes me feel special!

My mother Joyce, my great aunt Hilda and one of Hilda's nurses.

Great Aunt Hilda and Me.
Great Aunt Hilda and Me.