How To Make An Emergency FLYing Kit

I really don’t know why I didn’t think of this before to write as a blog.  Many have been sick with cold and flu this season and it makes it very difficult to FLY.  So what should you do?  I suggest you make a ‘Emergency FLYing Kit.’

What are two things that pile up when you get sick?  Dishes and Laundry.  If you are practicing the ‘Daily 9’s’ it shouldn’t get too bad.  They are the habits that keep you, your family and your home going.   I can’t help you with the laundry but I can with the dishes!

Emergency Flying Kit
That’s right.  It is something to put together ‘before’ you get sick.  It is as follows:

Paper Plates
Plastic Silverware
Plastic Glasses
Three ‘Meal Ideas’ that promote ‘Easy Clean up.’
Some may say using these things are not good for the environment.  I say NOT using them is not good for a sick caregiver such as yourself.  If you had a birthday party you are likely to have some leftover paper plates.  Maybe from the holidays.  Use them up. 
I average just two times a week where I will eat a meal on a paper plate.  I have plastic silverware and glasses if I really need them.  It is just me so washing some silverware is no big deal for me.  But if you have a family, the last thing you want to do are dishes.  
FLY stands for First Love Yourself others come next.  Do yourself a favor and put a kit together.  Put some napkins in there too.  If you don’t have to worry about all the cleanup you will have to do when you feel better, who knows maybe you just might recover sooner!
I hope you will take this idea seriously.  I live with Fibromyalgia and for me just eating on paper plates a couple of times a week makes a world of difference in my FLYing.
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Do The 25 Scoop! And Cha Cha Cha!

When I created Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2015  three requirements had to be part of the system.

           1.  SIMPLE

                    2.  EFFECTIVE

             3. DOABLE

In order for it to work it also had to be………


 Many systems suggest ‘decluttering 15 minutes’ at a time. Have you ever set your timer and then froze wondering how to go about it? I KNOW I HAVE!!!

So much of our attitude sits between our 2 ears. We have to get creative in order for us to make this 1. Simple  2. Effective 3. Doable.

One of the ways I have learned to distract myself enough to get this part of taking care of yourself, your family and your home is to count the number of items. It doesn’t matter how big or how small they are. Just start counting. I chose the number of items to be 25 simply because that is the day of the month I was born. Nothing more.

What happens when the phone rings and a friend says, “I will be over to visit you in about 15 minutes”? Most of us will get a basket or tub, run through the house and begin to SCOOP things up. If we make our habits jive with our individuality our chances of sticking with it are great!

Take doing the 25 SCOOP a step further and………


Next time you declutter put some music on and do a 25 Scoop And Cha Cha Cha!


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Donation/Giveaway Box Oh My!

Every home has trash cans in multiple places in the home. We do it to make our lives easier. In fact if we recycle, chances are there is a recycling center set up in the home.

So why don’t we have a Donation/Giveaway Box located somewhere in our home? One of the rules to keep our homes free of clutter is if we bring in something new, naturally something old must go out. And yet we don’t do it. Could it be as simple as having a Donation/Giveaway Box located in let’s say our laundry room?

In my Marilyn’s Way Secret Group January is devoted to the 31 Day Cha Cha Cha Event! It involves throwing away, giving away and putting away  items in our home. When we do sessions of decluttering it is best to have three boxes set up for the task + a timer.

Then there is the time when as you go about your day, you may run into something that you wonder why you bought it and the thought “I need to get rid of this.” thought comes to play. Problem is we won’t act on it because we haven’t created a place to put those items like we do with a trash can. When trash cans are full, naturally they go outside for garbage pick up.

Clock for Marilyns Way Its Challenge Timename4

What is the challenge? It is to stop what you are doing and find a box or a tote and put a sign on it that says Donations/Give Away and place it in your Laundry Room. Next time you find something that you can give away, put it in the box and when the box gets full put it in your car and take it with you to drop off during your next Doo Wop Errand Day! It really is that simple.


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31 Days Of Cha Cha Cha Event!

Christmas will soon be over. More items will come in than go out. What does that spell? CLUTTER! CLUTTER! CLUTTER! 

What to do? Have a 31 Days Of Cha Cha Cha Event! It stands for ‘Throw Away’ ‘Give Away’ and ‘Put Away’. January is a great month for this event. Many will be taking down Christmas trees and decorations and will already be in the Cha Cha Cha mood!

Every day in January find something to Cha Cha Cha each day! It is a fun way of saying each day to Throw Away, Give Away, and Put Away 1 item and see what a difference it will make. If you are in the beginning stages of decluttering focus on 3 items each day.

It is your event to do as you choose. I know I can find one item of each for each day in January. Can you? Make the month of January a fun one to beat the winter blues! ~Marilyn.


Special Note: I will be doing the Cha Cha Cha with you and blogging about things I learn along the way. Come join the fun in my ‘Secret Facebook Group’ ‘Marilyn’s Way!’ To do this simply send a friend request to me at and I will add you to the group where we discuss ways to remove CLUTTER and CHAOS from our homes and build great friendships along the way.

One thing that we all know is ‘Housework Never Ends’. We get up the next day and do it all over again. Learn how to make it easier on yourself by practicing 9 habits each day from Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System.

Turnaround Tuesday!

Let’s just say Monday hasn’t gone as planned. Not to worry. ‘Turnaround Tuesday’ is just around the corner.

I have been increasing my exercise and now the ole knee is acting up. I am finding trigger points caused by my fibromyalgia everywhere in the right calf of my leg. I have been consulting with Devin Starlanyl and Justine Jeffries experts in the field and have some solutions in the mix in which I will be sharing at a later date.

Trigger points don’t care if you need to get dressed to shoes. They hold on for dear life because that is their job. It took me longer than usual to ‘Get Dressed To Shoes’ as I needed to use my tens unit on my leg. Nevertheless, I got my shower and dressed to shoes. During this time I implemented my ‘Swish & Swipe’ in the bathroom. After all, I was already there. This is also the time that I ask the question, ‘What’s For Dinner?’. I am happy that I made a batch of chili this weekend so a bowl of that and a tossed salad is what I had for dinner this evening.

One thing when you are laid up for half the morning, there is lots of time to think. I decided to put my mind to work on planning for this week I call my ‘Merengue Planning Day’ of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System that I created for myself to become ‘consistent’ in ‘spite’ of my fibromyalgia’. Things I plan are the bills I need to pay, phone calls to make, paperwork that needs to be filled out , a few meals I plan to make and the day I plan to do my ‘Doo Wop Errand Day’. Tomorrow I will run to town for things I need. I am hoping for it to be a quick trip and to leave in the morning. My list is made and ready to go.

Trigger points in fibromyalgia love to zap your energy as well. It is a tug of war as they want to stay in a knot where I am trying to work them out like bumps out of saltwater taffy. An unplanned afternoon nap had to take place if I was going to get the rest of my 9 habits done. Releasing trigger points is exhausting. Nevertheless necessary.

Working trigger points in muscles is like working the bumps out of saltwater taffy.
Working trigger points in muscles is like working the bumps out of saltwater taffy.

I am glad that I put a ‘load of laundry’ in the wash after I took my shower and before my afternoon nap. The clothes are now in the dryer and I am hearing the buzzer go off. I may have to run a fluff cycle because during my planning session I realized I have more projects than normal for this week. When this happens I corral them in a plastic tote that I can work out of instead of it scattered everywhere. I have a couple more things to put in the tote.

My projects for the week are corralled in the tote. Trixie reminds me that she needs to be part of my week too!
My projects for the week are corralled in the tote. Trixie reminds me that she needs to be part of my week too!

The buzzer is going off again on the dryer. That means it is time to end this blog so I can get them folded and put away.

What’s left? I need to set up my coffee pot for tomorrow. This is when I make sure my ‘Sink is Shined’. I will pick out my outfit for tomorrow when I put the folded clothes away. My ‘Launch Pad’ consists of my purse and ‘Where’s My Keys?’ I have them both in a convenient place to make it easy to take when I head out the door.

I am sure glad I remembered that tomorrow is ‘Turnaround Tuesday’ so I could make plans to turn things around for the week!


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A New Dance! Crisis Cleaning!


Are you ready for a new dance? Most are this time of year. The dance I will be talking about today is ‘Crisis Cleaning’.

The extended family is coming to your home for the holidays. Most of us hold our breath in and afraid to let it out. We seem to panic when company is coming. Why? Peer pressure is probably the main issue.

We have all been here before. Some several times. The point is yes I need to do a ‘Crisis Clean’ and this time I will do it confidently. Why? Because I am giving you a step by step way to crisis clean hitting the high points of your home first that will help you get through this dance.


  1. Get Dressed To Shoes – Before you do anything when it comes to the house, this is the most important step that helps you to begin. I could tell you all the reasons but that is for another time. Take faith and ‘Just Do It’.
  2. Three Zones To Focus On – Bathroom, Kitchen and Living Room. This is where your guests will be spending their time. Do these three areas first and in this order.
  3. Entry and Bedrooms – After the three zones are done.
  4. Start with the Bathroom – We start with the bathroom. Why? Part of getting dressed to shoes will be spent in the bathroom. You are already here so let’s do the ‘Swish & Swipe’. It helps to give a bottle of Windex and some paper towels a home. Set them by the toilet bowl cleaner in the cabinet. Swish the toilet and swipe the mirrors and sink.
  5. Kitchen – Lots of action will be taking place here!  Have you turned your dancing music on yet? ‘Do It Now’. If you have dishes in the sink and on the counter, move them aside. Empty the sink and fill it with hot water and some bleach. Let it soak. Grab a trash bag and begin to move from left to right and clockwise around the kitchen and get rid of trash. There is always plenty in the kitchen. This will free up some space.
  6. Living Room – While the sink is soaking, move on to the living room with your trash bag and start tossing. Magazines and newspapers first, the rest next. Slip into the bathroom to look for trash there. This is the first ‘Cha’ of the Cha Cha Cha. We will take this bag and put it outside in the trash. This includes all trash cans in these areas as well. We have to ‘throw away’ before we can ‘give away’ and ‘put away’ We are not going to be getting into detailed decluttering but if we see something that can be given away it is going into a box. Scan the three rooms quickly and without much thought. Whatever you collect take it to the car to be donated on your next errand day. Here comes the hardest. It is the ‘Put Away’ part of the crisis cleaning. It will be a challenge but can be done. Go to each of the top 3 rooms and gather like items to be picked up and put away in the general area it belongs. Do some light dusting in the living room.
  7. Break Time! – Remember this is a crisis clean. We just want our homes presentable for a short period of time while having guests. If we have to ‘Stash n Dash’ so be it.  The only way one can keep it clean is by creating 9 habits to practice each day that take care of ourselves, our families and our home’. We crisis clean for 30 minutes, take a break for 15 minutes, repeat until done.
  8. Back To The Kitchen – Scrub around the faucets and the faucet itself. You can also scrub around the edge of your sink. Drain you bleach water and next fill up one side of the sink with hot soapy water. It is time to do the dishes and get them done whether it is hand washing or putting them into the empty dishwasher. We cannot scrub our counters and appliances until we get rid of the dishes and anything else sitting out. If you are hand washing your dishes, as soon as you are done, move on to drying them and putting them away. This is crucial. It helps you get to the next step of wiping counters, cupboards and appliances down. Move from left to right, top to bottom and move clockwise around the room using your left hand to lift objects so you can wipe with your right hand. Continue to work around the room until you get back to the sink. Depending on how dirty the counters are you may have to back track to clean you dish cloth out and then go back to where you left off.
  9. Floors, floors, floors – Vacuum all your floors if you can to pick up dirt and dust. Then mop the floors and you are done! If you have some free time touch up the entry and if you don’t have time for the bedrooms, you can always shut the door!


If you want to gain control so crisis cleaning isn’t an issue I invite you into my facebook group Marilyn’s Way where we practice Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! that involves 9 daily habits plus a weekly one for a specific day. Once we get comfortable with the first level we move on to the 2nd. It is monthly zone events for specific weeks. Finally the 3rd level is where we have our special events that last all month long in specific area certain times of the year to assist in maintaining your home. You can join by sending me a personal friend request at and I will add you to the group.



Chemo This Morning, Garth Tonight Enjoying ‘The Dance’

Every once in awhile something will grab my attention and suck me in from something shared on Facebook.

The performance of Garth Brooks in Minneapolis Friday night, November 7th did just that.

He is performing the song ‘The Dance’, sees a sign in the crowd that says: CHEMO THIS MORNING, GARTH TONIGHT, ENJOYING THE DANCE.

He seeks out the woman from Iowa serenading her while performing the song. He then gives his guitar to this woman, gets back up on stage and listen to what he has to say.

Garth lost both his mother and sister to Cancer. The love he showed for this woman who also brought her 19 year old daughter proves the passion he has in the fight against Cancer.

What drew me to this at first? Garth. Second performing the song ‘The Dance’ and third the power of HUMAN SPIRIT.

I’m just enjoying ‘The Dance’.


Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System to help you take care of yourself, your family, and your home by ridding yourself of clutter and CHAOS.

It’s Monday Again!

I have to tell you, so far the month of September has been stressful for me. I was dealing with an ill dog companion that resulted in his passing. I am working on a blog to share my experience in hopes it will help others. Look for it in the middle of the week.

It’s Monday Again!

How did Monday come so fast? Yesterday I buried my Maltese dog named Fred. What will the coming week bring? I suspect more grieving with some feelings of peace by the end of the week.

Today is Merengue Planning Day for ‘Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System. How involved does the planning have to entail? It is totally up to you. I know my planning from week to week fluctuates depending on how many activities I have.

I am not asking to write down every detailed item today that you plan to do this week. Merengue Planning Day is more a day to decide what is in the following form.

A form to help you plan your week.
A form to help you plan your week.

Use this form to ‘Map Out Your Week’. Scratch notes on it. Use it as a worksheet that you can refer to for the coming week.

The following describes how Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2014 has three levels with level one being the most important. It is based on levels where the first one needs to be done before you move to the next. Some weeks you may only be able to do the first level. That is okay. You are moving forward. That is all any of us can ask for and commit to. Establishing the first level of the system makes it so much easier to move on to the next. The following are the 3 levels to Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2014.

3 Levels Of Marilyn's Way Dance Till You FLY! System
3 Levels Of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System

Not so bad when it is laid out this way is it? Born Organized would have figured this out almost immediately. They know how to set up a structure. Most of us don’t.

S.H.E. Sidetracked Home Executives
S.H.E. Sidetracked Home Executives

We tend to be the SHE’s of the group. Now there is nothing wrong with being a SHE. We just have to learn how to plan what works better for us.

I give you suggestions to the order of the 9’s. You can take these 9 habits and put them in a different order. Just make sure you give it your best shot each day to do all 9. Once you are comfortable with them will come the weekly habits for specific days. Again, you choose the days for each of the habits that will work best for you. I simply give you a suggestion.


The second level is ‘Weekly Zone Events’. Our homes have five zones where we spend a week on a specific zone for a specific week of the month. It is the ‘Maintenance Level’ of the system.

The third level is your ‘Seasonal Monthly Events’ where some of them will be bi-annual. When you have the first 2 levels scheduled for your day, this level will be do what you can. Something is always better than nothing.

The 3rd level is really for the group to come together and make each other accountable. I selected the events for certain times of the year that we would get the most mileage and make sense.

Tuesday is ‘Freestyle Day’. I wanted to get this post to you earlier for Monday. Since it is later, I will give you Tuesday’s weekly habit form to follow as a guide.

Freestyle Day Weekly Habits Form
Freestyle Day Weekly Habits Form

While I am at it I will give you Wednesday’s ‘Anti Dilly Dally Day’ form you can use to make notes.

Anti Dilly Dally Form
Anti Dilly Dally Form

I hope I have explained how Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2014  works. There are many other systems that are in greater detail. Most of them are for ‘Born Organized’ and not ‘Sidetracked Home Executive’ like we are. Will I ever be ‘Born Organized’? No and frankly I wouldn’t want to. That is a personal choice. I spent way too many years trying to be something I am not.

If you have trouble staying with a system I invite you to try Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System (c) 2014 and see if it will work for you!


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The First Cha Of The Great Declutter Your Clothes, Your Closet and Cha Cha Cha! Event

Today is Day 9 of The Great Declutter Your Clothes, Your Closet and Cha Cha Cha! Event held in Marilyn’s Way Group.  For the first 9 days I asked everyone to go through their clothes and closet to find things that can be thrown away.  Some of the items can be:

  • Socks without a partner
  • Soiled and Holey Clothes Beyond Repair
  • Tags You Took Off A Garment You Bought That Never Made It To The Trash
  • All The Things You Empty From Your Pockets That Needed To Be Thrown Away.
  • Old Magazines
  • Expired Medication In Your Bedside Table
  • Empty Boxes In The Closet That Need To Be Tossed Out

As you can see, all of the above take up space making it difficult to ‘Get Dressed To Shoes’ each day as Habit 1 of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System. It happens to the best of us by simply thinking we don’t have time to throw it away or get stuck into indecision.

If you are having a difficult time decluttering your clothes, your closet and cha cha cha’ing start with the Throw Away part of the Cha Cha Cha!  Just seeing some space in your closet will give you the incentive to do the second part of cha cha cha! and that will be the Give Away pile.

Get a trash bag and set your timer for 15 minutes tossing away all the unnecessaries that have found their way into this area.  You will be surprised at what you can do!  It is ‘Just 15 Minutes’!  Go for it!


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Kitchen Cha Cha Cha!

It’s Gardening Season and during this time my kitchen can take a beating.  I am constantly in and out of it as the Kitchen is the ‘Heart of the Home’.

Yesterday I wrote about my ‘3 Day/3 Week/3 Load Limit’.  This is a way to help me when life gets in the way.  After 3 Days of not doing all of the 9 habits, it is then time to stop everything and focus on doing a 45 minute ‘Kitchen Cha Cha Cha’ 15 minutes at a time.   The following is my starting point and will show you my 15 minutes at a time progress.

This is a tutorial for educational purpose only.  I write about doing things in real time and have learned to be realistic by practicing this method.

Kitchen during gardening 018 My starting point.  I start at my Launch Pad working clockwise and top to bottom.  I start with the first Cha.  It is throwing away everything that has no value.  The next Cha is to put away the items that have a home and to group the like items together.  The last Cha is give away in which this session I don’t have anything.

Kitchen during gardening 019 Here is the other angle.

After 15 minutes 001 After 15 minutes of Kitchen Cha Cha Cha!  Above I explained how I did it.

After 15 minutes 002 Other angle.

After 30 Minutes 001 This is after 30 minutes.  You see I am making progress.

After 30 Minutes 002Other angle.

After 30 minutes I was getting tired.  I had put 3 days of hard work into gardening earlier and am not at the top of my game.  I move forward with a promise of a 30 minute break that includes lunch.

After 45 minutes 001 After 45 minutes the kitchen is in working order again.  I added photos of some of the things I did during this time.

After 45 minutes 002 Other angle

After 45 minutes 003 This is my ‘Dance Card’ or Control Journal.  Some days I get lots filled in and some days not.  Most of it is by memory now.

After 45 minutes 004 This is my PTL Gardening Book.  I have it by zones to help me stay on top of taking care of gardens and the yard.

After 45 minutes 005

Part of what was in my kitchen were seeds I still want to plant.  I decided to corral them and place in this container I can take back and forth as I continue to plant.After 45 minutes 006 These are ‘Moonflowers’ that have been soaking overnight for easier germination.

After 45 minutes 007 I shined my stove top.After 45 minutes 008 I shined my sink!

After 45 minutes 009 I even shined my mirror!

After 45 minutes 010 I shined my coffee pot, (not shown) and my microwave.

After 45 minutes 011 This is my blogging PTL book.  I am learning so many new things I have to keep track of.

After 45 minutes 012And here is what is left from the paper clutter scattered around the kitchen earlier.  I plan to spend at least 30 minutes on that today.

Kitchen during gardening 001 I have my 9 habits made up as a photo of my ‘Bleeding Heart’ plant.  It you would like a copy I will have my Etsy Shop set up soon and you will be able to purchase them.  It is a nice guide that will go with any decor.  The power of 3.

Kitchen during gardening 002You can see I have some of my favorite things on my refrigerator.  You will notice I also have a copy of ‘What To De-Clutter?’ guide.  I am thinking of taking a photo of my flowers and make it into a photo and have them available for sale.

I hope you enjoyed this tutorial of a ‘Kitchen Cha Cha Cha!’ part of the Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System.


Any thoughts or questions?  Feel free to comment.  I am a real person that did this tutorial in real time and I would LOVE to hear from you!

I also have a secret group called Marilyn’s Way where a group of us support each other while learning the 9’s.  If you are interested in joining, send me a friend request at and I will be happy to add you to the group!  If you can send me a quick message that you would like to join the group.  It is ‘Secret’ and that means it is by invitation only and does not show up in the search for groups.