Habit # 1 The Easy Way To Get Dressed To Shoes!

Exercise Days

*Part of a 10 week series. To get involved join the Facebook group Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System To Remove Clutter & CHAOS

Some may wonder, what are FLYing clothes?  It is simple.  It is something you feel comfortable in wearing while you are FLYing. The purpose is to get you out of your pajamas that tells your mind to slumber rather than FLY.  So what I am going to do is give you some pictures of FLYing clothes that I have worn.

Your FLYing Clothes Are Determined By What You Are Doing For That Particular Day.
For example:   I am putting exercise into my FLYing at least 3 times a week.  They are not old worn out sweats.  I have 3 workout outfits that I wear that includes jackets.  Nothing fancy. Each piece from Walmart $10.00 a piece.  I layer with a sports bra and top with thin straps.  If I need to run to the store that is only 11 miles away, I can easily do it wearing the outfit.  I can also clean/FLY in it.  So now I know what 3 out of 7 outfits I am wearing for the week.
Errand Day
One day is Errand Day.  I usually wear nice jeans and a nice top.  One day is Renew Your Spirit Day and I wear a nice pair of slacks and top to church.  This leaves me with 2 days left.  What do I wear? I wear clothes that I feel comfortable in.  For me it is side elastic jeans and a top or a sports bra and top with skinny straps with a jacket over it.  That completes 7 days for me.  If there is something I am working on that I am afraid I might stain a top, I pull out my work shirt to cover any spills.  I also have an apron I will put on if I think I will get dirty.
Renew Your Spirit Day
In A Nutshell, FLYing Clothes Are The Ones In Between Your Good Clothes And Your Grunge Clothes.  It Is The Type Of Clothing That You Won’t Feel Bad Wearing When An Old Friend Shows Up At Your Door Or Running To The Store Quick To Pick Something Up And You Run Into An Old Boyfriend.  You Have To Keep One Set Of Grunge Clothes For Certain Jobs.  I Call Them My Painting Clothes.  They Aren’t Super Grungy.  They Have Paint On Them Because I Am Painting.
Apron To Protect Your Clothes
I hope this explains what FLYing Clothes are.  I had a problem at first and if you notice in any of my Individual Photos when I was doing the challenge “Getting Dressed To Shoes, Hair and Makeup”  It was tops and bottoms with a shirt.  It is as simple as this.  So please take a chance on the FLYing side and get out of your pajamas and “Get Dressed To Shoes!”
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April Ends May Begins

Did the month of April go by fast for you? It sure did for me. Activities that have been keeping me busy are my Facebook Pages and groups, teaching myself the technical aspects of blogging, (I swear I was born in the wrong generation when it comes to technology.) and gearing up for the gardening season.

When the technical aspect of designing my page  throws me a curve ball, I take a break and head outside making plans and switching perennial plants around in my gardens to create a new look.  This gives me the opportunity to allow new information that is foreign to me sink in.

I am determined to create a page that is enjoyable to visit. I hope you stay with me in this journey. In the meantime I have written almost 5 years of articles that I feel have great content. You can click on the menu that will take you to other blogs I have started and am working on having all of the posts available to you here.

For those who have been following me I thank you for your dedication to learn along with me finding your own way with the help of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System’s 9 habits that help you free yourself, your family and your home from clutter and CHAOS (Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome) and allow you to enjoy your life as it should be.

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Finish It Up Fridays!

Recently I have found a name and a description for the 5 working days of the week. I like the addition to Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System. Of course it is always optional and can be used for variety.

Why I decided to have some fun names for each day of the working week is to provide structure. Remember Sundays many families have sat down to a chicken dinner. When one thought of Sunday they immediately associated it with church and chicken dinner. Today I am writing about Friday.

‘Finish It Up Fridays’ is simply that! Whatever projects you have been working on during the week, today is the day to finish them up so Saturday can be fun time and Sunday a day of rejuvenating yourself. Examples of ‘Finish It Up Fridays’ are:

  • Undone Paperwork With A Deadline
  • Balancing Your Checkbook
  • Any Household Project You Started During The Week
  • List Is Endless

If we learn to plan our lives one week at a time, the days and months go so much better. Why? Because breaking things up by days, weeks, months, quarters, and years makes ones life a bit more manageable and isn’t that what we all are searching for?


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How A Rainbow Is Made

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Last night the wind came up suddenly.  I happened to be in a protected area.  I knew it was strong because I watched the blooms of a crab apple tree fly off.

Next came the rain and it was just that.  Sometimes when wind is that strong and the temperature drops hail can form.  Thankfully it just rained.

It was a fast passing cloud that went by.  How do I know? Well I looked out of the east window of my living room and there was a beautiful rainbow peaking out from the edge of the trees.

Naturally I had to go outside to see if I could see the end of the rainbow.  Not only that, I was able to see the entire arch!  I can’t even remember the last time I saw a rainbow as beautiful as this one.  I took photos to share with you all.  To be honest, this rainbow was more beautiful than the photos I took.  That said I still wanted to show them to you.  I hope it makes your day a bit more pleasant.

If you would like to know more about How A Rainbow Is Formed click on the link.  One thing I learned is a rainbow is actually a circle!

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The church is to the east side of my house.
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The old Blacksmith building is to the south of my house.
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The sun was the very reason for this beautiful rainbow after the rain.
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The Opera House on the south side. I kept walking back to see how much of the rainbow I could see.
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As I walked back, I could see how vibrant the rainbow was.
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Between Prairie Lodge and the Fire Hall is the other side of the rainbow.
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Here is a closer view of the rainbow by the Fire Hall.

What experiences have you had with rainbows?  When was the time you were able to enjoy one?  I would love to know!


Marilyn’s Way Family Fun Day!

When you think of ‘Family Fun Day’ what do you think about?  I bet no one has asked you this question in awhile.  The ones that are reading this are usually geared to finding the best way to do things to take care of yourself, your family and your home and garden.

Guess What!

Part of taking care of your family is to create a ‘Family Fun Day’ each week.  Most take it on Saturdays but whatever day works for you is great!

Want To Get Your Children Involved In Helping Take Care Of Your Home?

Create a ‘Family Fun Day’ each week!  Kids are more likely to keep their rooms in order if you make that part of the deal,  In order to have Family Fun Day each child must get their room cleaned and know what they are wearing to school for the week.

Do you have any idea how much time with this one task that is delegated will save you?  Lot’s!  The key to this is to not be too hard on them if they don’t get everything done according to how you always do things.  This exercise is NOT about doing it perfectly.  It is about teaching your child a simple habit that he/she is responsible for each week.  As time goes on he/she will get better at it.  Isn’t that what happens to us?

Set A Timer For 15 Minutes And Tell Everyone To Pick Out Their Clothes For The Week!

Have your kids choose their clothing according to what is scheduled at school that week.  It is also a great way to interact with your child and help assist them in ‘Decision Making Skills’.

On To Family Fun Day!

The list is endless if you let your imagination run wild.  Ask your kids what they want to do.  Make sure you are doing age appropriate things for your family fun day.  Many can be free to do or if given an allowance they can use their money for the event.

Go to the zoo

Go to the circus

Play miniature golf

Go to a carnival

Finger Painting

A picnic in the park

A trip to the swimming pool

A trip to the lake

Go to Pinterest and look up kids activities.  The list is endless.

These are a few examples what you can do for ‘Family Fun Day’.  Remember it is your day and no family is alike.  Most importantly ‘Have Fun!’



Friday’s Weekly Wrap Up

What a week this has been!  Monday morning I started to town to take my blazer in to get fixed.  The job was going to take longer than expected and the shop asked if they could keep it overnight.  What could I say but yes.

Next came problem solving skills.  Lily and Fred my dachshund and Maltese were at home 40 miles away.  The best solution was for my mom to take me back home where I would load up my life including the computer but not the kitchen sink , bring the dogs in and spend the night.  It actually wasn’t too bad gathering all the things to take back to town.  It is just something I wouldn’t want to do on a weekly basis.

I ended up spending two nights at my mom’s.  It wasn’t painful.  Actually we had lots of fun.  One game that has been running for some time  we play together is Skip Bo.  We played 5 games total with myself winning 2 and Mom the winner (for now!) having 3 wins.

I also managed to write 3 blogs for you while I was there.  I am glad Monday’s blog was written Sunday or I may have been in a pickle.  Let’s look at what I covered this week.

Monday – Dance Till You FLY! Series

Week 2 – I explained that Dance Till You FLY! has 3 parts.

1.  Daily Habits Grouped Into 3′s For Each Routine

2.  Weekly Habits On Specific Days With One Being The ‘Weekly               Home Mambo’

3.  Weekly Zones

I also talked about the importance of freeing oneself from perfectionism and procrastination.  It is something we have to work on but it can be done.

I also wrote a blog called Today Is Fibromyalgia Awareness Day.  I shared my story on how I happened to get this invisible chronic illness with no cure.  Every year May 12th is set aside to help spread awareness.  You will find in my story it wasn’t just one thing that contributed to it.

Tuesday – Gardening

Most who love gardening are very anxious to get started in the north central part of the United States.  Mother Nature doesn’t seem to want to cooperate so we wait.

What I did do is show you a few plants outside at Mom’s house and then her beautiful violets in bloom inside.  The blog was called In A Holding Pattern For Spring.  Click on the link to see the green thumb my mom has with violets.  They are beautiful.

Wednesday – Lifestyle

I revealed the magic pill in Part Two Of Two Fibromyalgia Isn’t a Death Sentence.  Some may agree with me and some not.  It is what helped me the most in the 25 years since I was officially diagnosed.  I hope to share more of this topic from my perspective for consideration.

That’s the wrap up for the week of May 12th.  If there is something you would like me to cover in any of the three categories please comment and see if I can get the high points of it to share with you.

P.S. Do you like the format I am providing with specific subjects on specific days and wrapping it up on Fridays?  I am trying to find my voice in the blogging world and appreciate any suggestions you have by writing them in the comments.

See you Monday where I continue to write about Dance Till You FLY! Series that helps you learn how to take care of yourself, your family and your home and garden!




Today Is Fibromyalgia Awareness Day!

Since Fibromyalgia has been my side kick officially for the past 25 years, I will speak out about it.  For the first 13 years I was in denial.  It wasn’t until the government declared me having fibromyalgia as a disability did I even begin to accept it.  In fact I still don’t want to accept it.

The course of my life changed dramatically simply because I was at the wrong place at the wrong time when a Brown Recluse Spider decided to bite me in 1986.  I spent 3 days in the hospital with an IV of antibiotics and taking sitz baths to rid my body of the poison.  I never was the same after this incident.  That is when I first experienced Brain Fog.

Then there was a bad car accident on the Dallas North Tollway in 1988 where it was a 5 car pile up.  I received whip lash.  Of the 18 Trigger Points 6 of them are in the neck and shoulder area.  That wasn’t all.

After the car accident I developed Pneumonia where I ended up in the hospital for 10 days.  It was a long road to recovery.

Fibromyalgia was waiting in the wings for me.  It was never one thing that caused me to get fibromyalgia.  You can see it was a combination of things.  Top that off with finding out 9 years ago that I have severe Sleep Apnea and it is a recipe for a challenging life of pain, brain fog and fatigue.

Should I quit on myself?  There is no cure for fibromyalgia.  They still are far from it.  My answer is ‘NO’.  I spent 5 years being very ill but I would never give up.

Today what has helped me the most is establishing a set of nine habits I do each day every day that assist me in taking care of myself, my family, and my home and garden.

I found that I needed to create ‘consistency’ in a non consistent illness that is affected by so many factors making it difficult to find a cure.

Fibromyalgia Is A High Maintenance Illness

If I am to have any type of quality of life, I am going to have to pay attention to my fibromyalgia.  I cannot simply wish it away.  I have tried.  It doesn’t work.  Instead it is a combination of eating healthy foods, non gluten, mild exercise and good sleeping habits.  All of these are challenging in this fast pace society.

Other Areas Of My Life Must Be Simple

For years I have tried to manage my fibromyalgia and do what regular people do.  About 3 years ago I realized that I was going to have to create a way that would work for me.  That means simple, simple, simple.  I usually eat off of paper plates on my bad days, wear soft cotton clothing and nothing binding, and removing the clutter in my home has helped tremendously.  No longer do I feel like I am swimming in quick sand.

Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series

After trying several systems and taking the good from them,  mixing in with my experience and education, I created a system called Dance Till You FLY! It is a very basic system that anyone can do with the option to do more at taking care of yourself, your family and your home and garden.  My purpose is simply inviting you to try it and hope to help you with it.

On Mondays I will be explaining how I developed Dance Till You FLY! and invite you to join me if you are interested in looking for a better way for your life.

I hope this year Fibromyalgia Awareness Day will get the attention it so deserves.  If you are not afflicted with it, chances are you have a friend or family member who does.  I hope my experience and how Fibromyalgia showed up on my doorstep will help you better understand this illness.


Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series

Last week I asked you to answer two questions that are in this form:


They are both important questions to be answered.  It will be the answer to these questions that will get you through the tough days and there will always be tough days.

Week 2

Welcome to week two of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series.  How do I begin?  We all know the hardest part of it is getting started.  I gave it some thought and feel it would be best explained by starting with an outline of the system and breaking down each part.

Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series Has 3 Parts

1.  Daily Habits Grouped Into 3’s For Each Routine

2.  Weekly Habits On Specific Days With One Being The ‘Weekly               Home Mambo’

3.  Weekly Zones

Simple enough, right?  Actually it is.  So what is the problem?  Us.  For some reason we think anything worth pursuing has to become complicated.  We have to think really hard to the point of exhaustion.  Why?  Because somewhere along the line we somehow got brainwashed.

Sure, there are many systems out there.  All you have to do is google it.  They are filled with list after list of things to do that for me it took my breath away.  I tried them and failed.  It is as simple as that.  Of course there was one thing that I had to factor into them that is never addressed.  What if you have an off day?  What do you do then?

I have Fibromyalgia.  In fact I was officially diagnosed 25 years ago.  This is most of my adult life that I felt like I was wearing ankle weights that would fluctuate without warning.  This can be very tiring.   I average 3 off days each week.  I am in pain 80% of the time.  My off days include: brain fog, pain, stiffness, fatigue, nausea, dizziness…  All of these I have to deal with while taking care of my home.  I had to come up with a system that would factor in my off days.

Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System Isn’t For People With Chronic Illnesses Only

I have been sharing what I do in my group for over 3 years.  What I come to find out is it will work for stay at home moms, moms who work outside the home, retired ones, and most importantly anyone who wants to learn how to enjoy life in spite of taking care of one’s home.

How Do We Do This?

If we want to make this work, the two things we must rid ourselves of are ‘perfectionism’ and ‘procrastination’.  Until you can get rid of these will you ever be able to follow any type of system to take care of yourself, your family, and your home.  It is easy to say and hard to do.  I invite you to release them from yourself a little at a time as you learn a new way.  It wasn’t until I was able to let go of them was I able to understand.

This week’s assignment is to practice letting go of perfectionism and procrastination.  It isn’t an easy thing to do.  It can be done a little each day and eventually can be out of our lives.  Keeping an open mind is the key.

Next week we will begin the nine habits taking them one at a time.  In the meantime, continue what you are doing and just become aware of how you do things.  None of this happens overnight.  It will happen in less than a year if you commit to it and give it your best shot by being honest with yourself.

When was the first time you became aware of your perfectionism and procrastination that became a part of your life?  I would like to hear.  For me it began at a young age where it became a problem later in high school and college, on into adulthood.  I am so happy that I have been able to rid myself of them and you can too.





Mother’s Day Is Bittersweet

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Mother’s Day is tomorrow.  There are the Hallmark cards that say all the words that we sometimes can’t.  Then there are the other cards.  But what if there weren’t any cards at all?

If the founder in the United States Anna Jarvis had it her way there wouldn’t be all the commercialization of Mother’s Day.  Anna Jarvis started a campaign in 1905 when her dear mother died.  It wasn’t until 1908 that the first memorial was held at a church honoring her.  From there it began to take a life of its own.

Some of us still have our dear mother.  The relationship is always bittersweet.  It has been from the beginning when Mom first said ‘No’ or ‘Maybe’ to us.

I love it when kids will say, ‘You are not the boss of me!’  Of course never would they say that to their mother.  That phrase is saved specifically for aunts, uncles and cousins.

What about the words Mom does use?  Remember when you asked your mom if you could go swimming and she would reply with ‘maybe’?  I certainly do!  Then I would sit and wish it to ‘yes’.  Sometimes it worked and sometimes not.  But then that is what maybe means.  Why did I think any different?

None of us want to hear the word ‘no’.  Even today if I ask my mom a question that will benefit me and she says no, I still don’t like it.

There are some of us that have lost our mother and some of us that never became a mother at all.  I fall into the second category.  I once was pregnant but it was never to be.  I can’t help but dream what my life would be like if only for a moment.

If you look up the word Mother you will find 19 definitions.  I am glad I did because there is a definition for me.  In fact several definitions would fit for me.  Click on the link Mother and there will be one for you too.

The one thing we all can agree on is none of us liked to hear the words ‘maybe’ or ‘no’ from our mother.  For that simple reason Mother’s Day is bittersweet.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom!


Friday’s Weekly Wrap Up

I didn’t get as much coverage on my three blogs this week and hoping to get some in this week’s ‘Friday’s Weekly Wrap Up.’

Monday I introduced  Dance Till You FLY! mw System Series where I have found a way to take care of myself, my family, and my home and garden so I can enjoy life and want to share my findings with you.  There is no product that I am selling.  It is just honest real time information I want to pass along.  Mondays will be devoted to this until further notice.

It is an interesting journey trying to find one’s voice on the internet.  My mission is to break through some barriers and practice getting to the point with what I have to say because I know you are busy and nothing is more frustrating when looking for something on the web and can’t find it.  I experience this on a daily basis as I develop my blog.

Tuesdays are going to be about my passion Gardening.  I want to show everyone it doesn’t take that much to have a green thumb.  It is a matter of making sure the plant has the right sunlight and water combo as I have learned once again this year that seedlings that dampen off (fall over and the base of the root gets weak) of not enough sunlight and too much water.  I am convinced these seedlings would have made it if I would have been able to get them outside.  All my plants had the right start and sometimes it isn’t anything that we do.  Sometimes the seedlings are not meant to be.  Until I learn otherwise this is my finding.

Wednesdays are about Lifestyle and this week I wrote about my take on Fibromyalgia.  I was diagnosed in 1989 so I can say I have had lots of experience with it.  What I wanted to come out of the piece is you won’t die from Fibromyalgia like Cancer but you can have as much pain and in order to manage it, ones approach must be multi faceted and a very High Maintenance illness not leaving much free time.

That’s my week of what I wanted to share with you.

1.  There is a way to take care of yourself, your family, and your home and garden and still enjoy life

2.  I am very anxious for gardening to start but delayed due to weather.

3.  Although Fibromayalgia is painful, one won’t die from it.  It just makes one’s life miserable if one lets it.

I would love to hear any comments on what I wrote this week.  I know you are busy and just a few words to me from you is a big thing for me.  Until next Friday’s Weekly Wrap Up have a wonderful weekend!  I plan to!