Recently we have gotten a flux of new members in my closed group Marilyn’s Way. I have been so excited about it that I have an all week event going on called Marilyn’s Way Party Mixer for a chance for members to get to know each other better. I have many members but only a percentage seem to participate on a daily basis and I would like to increase this through having FLYing Buddies, Finding Each Other With Similar Interests. Some are FLYing with small children, some older and then the empty nesters. I just felt maybe by having a week long party mixer some of the members we haven’t heard from would come forth. Also I wanted it for all the new members so that they can get connected easily with one another.
Then we have a group of FLYsisters that have been FLYing for some time and have gotten through the worst of their clutter. Now they are concentrating more on keeping their habits and routines consistent.
The one thing we love in the group are before and after pictures. Some members can be intimidated by it and that is the last thing that any of us want any member to feel.
Here is a “Testament” of one of our FLYsisters. I really liked what she had to say. I asked her if I could publish her Testament for others to read because she has great things to say. She agreed.
Chez Flyingwell’s Personal “Testament.”
Hello Fellow Flysisters who I love and admire with all my heart…
I wish to remind everyone that we are all at different stages of our Organising Journey… Some starting out, some in the middle of and some of us will never finish… Decluttering is an ongoing Journey that needs to be kept under control…
Today I posted some pictures of my Kitchen and when I started my cupboards were starting to over flow and I was struggling to find spaces for stuff I kept bringing in my home was ok… Just dont look in the cupboards, I’ll get that for you…
I have been with Marilyn’s way for about 5 months but started the Flylady Way a month before hand… I would normally have done a “spring” clean and quit… I went crazy for the first couple of months with my DH worried he was going to be trashed next… lol.. It took me about 3-4 months before I started noticing a huge change… I felt happier, my cupboards were lighter and my family were starting to get on board…
I am now at the stage where I only trash/donate a few things in each zone clean with some zones no decluttering necessary because I am not purchasing “things” anymore… Please believe me when I say I still get the “i dont wannas” but they dont last for long because I jump back in where I am, This is helped because I do my basic routines religiously (unless unwell etc)…
What I want to remind everyone is we are all at different stages and in time with your established routines and starting where you are at or jumping back in where you are you can and I believe will become more at peace within your home… also please remember to have fun, make time for you and renew your spirits in a way that makes you and your family happy… xxoo..
What a wonderful “Testament!” I could not have written it better! What makes me so very happy is she understands what my purpose for starting this group is.
“We are not a hurry up, get it done and then that’s it” type of group. We aren’t even a “try many different ways or systems” type of group. We know how to do that. We are a group that is learning to “First Love Ourselves Willingly” enough to start and then keep going and making this a way of life for ourselves. We don’t want it complicated. We want to find a way for ourselves that will work for us from lessons we have learned in the group.
Like the way a pair of comfortable shoes feel. Suddenly life throws us a curve ball, we actually depend on our comfortable shoes we call established routines to see ourselves through.
Perfectionism isn’t even in our vocabulary. It only leads us to procrastination that leads us to whining. The act of these three words will delay us even more so. We decide to leave them behind us and head into a new territory we call life where by establishing these habits and routines we will be able to “First Love Ourselves Willingly” so that we may love our families, friends, and the community in which we live in.
~Learn to FLOW with life and make our homes a comfortable place we want to be and welcome ones in as well.~
Marilyn
