Last week I asked you to answer two questions that are in this form:
They are both important questions to be answered. It will be the answer to these questions that will get you through the tough days and there will always be tough days.
Week 2
Welcome to week two of Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series. How do I begin? We all know the hardest part of it is getting started. I gave it some thought and feel it would be best explained by starting with an outline of the system and breaking down each part.
Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! Series Has 3 Parts
1. Daily Habits Grouped Into 3’s For Each Routine
2. Weekly Habits On Specific Days With One Being The ‘Weekly Home Mambo’
3. Weekly Zones
Simple enough, right? Actually it is. So what is the problem? Us. For some reason we think anything worth pursuing has to become complicated. We have to think really hard to the point of exhaustion. Why? Because somewhere along the line we somehow got brainwashed.
Sure, there are many systems out there. All you have to do is google it. They are filled with list after list of things to do that for me it took my breath away. I tried them and failed. It is as simple as that. Of course there was one thing that I had to factor into them that is never addressed. What if you have an off day? What do you do then?
I have Fibromyalgia. In fact I was officially diagnosed 25 years ago. This is most of my adult life that I felt like I was wearing ankle weights that would fluctuate without warning. This can be very tiring. I average 3 off days each week. I am in pain 80% of the time. My off days include: brain fog, pain, stiffness, fatigue, nausea, dizziness… All of these I have to deal with while taking care of my home. I had to come up with a system that would factor in my off days.
Marilyn’s Way Dance Till You FLY! System Isn’t For People With Chronic Illnesses Only
I have been sharing what I do in my group for over 3 years. What I come to find out is it will work for stay at home moms, moms who work outside the home, retired ones, and most importantly anyone who wants to learn how to enjoy life in spite of taking care of one’s home.
How Do We Do This?
If we want to make this work, the two things we must rid ourselves of are ‘perfectionism’ and ‘procrastination’. Until you can get rid of these will you ever be able to follow any type of system to take care of yourself, your family, and your home. It is easy to say and hard to do. I invite you to release them from yourself a little at a time as you learn a new way. It wasn’t until I was able to let go of them was I able to understand.
This week’s assignment is to practice letting go of perfectionism and procrastination. It isn’t an easy thing to do. It can be done a little each day and eventually can be out of our lives. Keeping an open mind is the key.
Next week we will begin the nine habits taking them one at a time. In the meantime, continue what you are doing and just become aware of how you do things. None of this happens overnight. It will happen in less than a year if you commit to it and give it your best shot by being honest with yourself.
When was the first time you became aware of your perfectionism and procrastination that became a part of your life? I would like to hear. For me it began at a young age where it became a problem later in high school and college, on into adulthood. I am so happy that I have been able to rid myself of them and you can too.
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I am definitely a perfectionist at work and have been told way to many times that I hold the bar way to high for myself and my coworkers… but I think we need to do this in our professional life and don’t think this will changed as I worked for more then half my life this week.. Procrastination is also a big thing for me at home.. I should be more of a perfectionist at home. I also have fibro but I don’t let it get me down and work hard to show people that you can still have a life and a disease.
I understand at work in various professions. Perfectionism becomes a problem when someone continues to procrastinate a project because they won’t do it unless it is perfect. I have fibro myself for 25 years. I used to get stuck on things because I didn’t know how to do it perfectly therefore the procrastination set in. When it comes to taking care of ones home for example when I clean my kitchen floor I no longer hyper focus on cleaning it for that particular time because I now have it in my weekly home mambo where there are 7 steps one spends and one of them is sweep and mop the floors. During the week I will spot clean if need be. This is an example. I invite you to follow along in this series where many things will make sense. Instead of focusing so much on perfectionism which can breed procrastination, I have learned to focus on specific habits in which I will be sharing as we go along. Thank you for commenting.
I don’t think I’m a perfectionist, but I do like things “my way”. I don’t usually procrastinate but I do find I have forgotten a few things until the last minute. Not often, but it does happen.
That’s great! As I explain more each week of the series there are ways that help you to not forget things. It has helped me tremendously. Thank you for commenting.
I knew my perfectionism was a problem when I realized that I never had my kids do anything around the house because I wanted it done a certain way.
Yes, there are many that have been in your situation. The great part is now you are aware. I have been guilty of it before. Thank you for commenting.
I have gotten better at letting go and letting others do some things but, I still have problems with some… I sometimes still go behind them and redo when they are not around… Probably perfectionism but, not as bad as it used to be. I am learning that in order to do all I want to do as I get older I have to let others take over some of the work… Procrastination has also become quite a friend of mine of late. I have found myself putting a lot off because I just don’t feel like doing it… working on that each day because it can be a total downer….
I think we all do if we ever had a problem with it to begin with. I know perfectionism and procrastination will show up at my door step. I just ask them to leave sooner than I used to! Ha! Thank you for commenting.
Hi Marilyn,
When I was younger, I had the problem with perfectionism but I kind of grew out of that. Since I’m older, I tend towards procrastination and it really bugs me. I do try to work on it.
Have a great evening. Monna
Hi Marilyn,
Ah perfectionism, everyone has a little of it somewhere… I think I’ve experienced being a procrastinator more.. although I have gotten much better at not doing it. You’ll hear me talk about using a timer to keep me on track .. works for me really well.
Procrastination bit me in about 5th grade. When i needed help with school projects, specifically science projects and didnt ask my parents until the last minute. They were always busy, I didnt think they’d have time to help me. So i just did my project as much as i could but didnt turn it in because i was ashamed I didnt get parent’s help. everyone else had their projects done with parental support and I had mine hidden behind my couch too afraid to turn it in/ From then on i did a lot, if not most of my longer assignments or projects the last minute and still did re
ugh, there’s an ad in the middle of the page so i couldnt read what i was typing 🙂 I do everything last minute. and by last minute i mean a 25 page poetry portfolio the night before it’s due and do it so PERFECT. (perfectionism, idk when that bug hit, probably at age 5 when i started helping Mom clean up, she had really bad OCD) I know i shouldnt wait till last minute but if i do it early i agonize over if i did it right and change it a million times after turning it in. Yes, i have asked for papers i;ve turned in before due date, back so i could double check it three thousand times before the REAL turn in. I say I do my best work under pressure, cuz if I dont have pressure then I will just take a stroll so to speak. and it either wont be done, or it will be awful and full of mistakes.
Am I the only one like this? lol How do i not be a procrastinator? How is one who was born two months early ALWAYS LATE 😀